∆ | A Quest Beckons

∆ | A Quest Beckons

What-ho and well-met, fellow mind. Welcome to what may be the beginnings of an [annual-ish] Ritual of Becoming. A ritual wherein we Choose One Word to serve as a guiding beacon in the dark. I’m so happy you are here.

This is a significant step you are taking


What this programme represents is an opportunity for you—for us—to delve deeper into the Patterns that might be holding us back from Who We Might Become. This is an opportunity for self-inquiry—for reflection, introspection; and all the wondrous things we don’t normally make time for.

And for this reason, this is not going to be a ‘typical online program’. This is not about ‘quick hacks’ or ‘quick fixes’ or ‘simple things’ that you can do. And this is probably going to be frustrating on several levels. But if it were easy—you’d have already done it, and there would be no need for a program like this, hoho.

So! We are about to face into perplexity. Self-knowledge, self-development, self-actualisation—these are some of the most mysterious, complex, nebulous, ineffable topics known to us.

This is going to take some wit. And a healthy dose of imagination.

Ergo, to make this whole thing work, I suggest you think of this whole experience as a bit of a foolish journey. To embrace new beginnings and apparent folly with a kind of open-mindedness and cultivated naïveté.

We will explore more of both/and juxtaposed metamodern thinking later in the program as we get better at working in paradox.


You’re going to hear me sprout mystical, magical and mythical notions in this programme. In doing so, we are not abandoning rationality or critical thinking—not at all. Instead, we are playing with what could be considered a ‘meta-rational’ stance. A means of suspending judgement and disbelief long enough to allow for new insights and revelations to take hold.

Matthew Freidell does demonstrates this approach splendidly in this video.

So: welcome! I’m thrilled that you are contemplating this quest.

If we treat this Ritual of Becoming as a sacred and semi~magical thing—something a little bit special—it may just work a little bit better for you. 

~~~ Each lesson will also end with a journalling prompt. A provocation to ponder as grist for contemplation. ~~~

To contemplate…


‘Mystical’, ‘magical’, ‘mythical’… these words are laden with meaning. And… it is possible you may have an ‘allergy’ (exaggerated reaction) to them. If so: what do you notice in yourself? And… why do you suspect this is?

Hashtag mysterious! Next we will explore how you can best approach this program…

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Welcome

  • ∆ | A Quest Beckons34
  • ∆ | Pick a Path – find your word in 3 hours, 3 days or 3 weeks11
  • ‡ | Bonini’s Paradox & Useful Delusions (a primer)9
  • ‡ | Why Mid-life Crises Are Happening Sooner & More Often26

Part 1 | Self Knowledge

  • ∆ | The Book of You (your unfurling story)17
  • ✎ | The Book of You (worksheet)3
  • ◊ | The Book of You (an extended activity)7
  • ‡ | A Non-Narrative Approach to Life (with narrative)7
  • ∆ | The Chart of You (what makes for a meaningful life?)13
  • ✎ | The Chart of You (worksheet)5
  • ‡ | Patterns of Incongruence2
  • ∆ | Finding Your Fulfilment Factors3
  • ✎ | Fulfilment Factors (worksheet)4
  • ∆ | The Negative Path to Clarity & Fulfilment
  • ◊ | The Most Difficult Question—What Do You Want?4
  • ◊ | Self-Sabotage—Why We Get In Our Own Way1
  • ◊ | Procrastination—the Savviest Self-Sabotage4
  • ◊ Perfectionism—the Prettiest Self-Sabotage5
  • ◊ | Busyness—the Most Pernicious Self-Sabotage
  • ◊ | Overcommitment—the Noblest Self-Sabotage3
  • ◊ | Environmental—the Circumstantial Self-Sabotage
  • ◊ | Physiological—the Invisible Self-Sabotage3
  • ∆ | Finding Your Hidden Commitments (important)9
  • ∆ | Harvesting Dark Wisdom from Conflicting Values4
  • ◊ | You Are Not Broken —there’s nothing you need to ‘fix’2
  • ∆ | Only Now Are We Ready to begin to Choose One Word6

The Incredible Power of Journalling

  • ◊ | Cultivating Metacognition3
  • ◊ | Journaling for Insight2
  • ◊ | Flexing Introspection6

Part 2 | Self Development

  • ∆ | What is Self-Development and why bother?
  • ∆ | Embrace a Fluid Experimental Disposition2
  • ∆ | Why This Is A Yearly Ritual (+ when to start)2
  • ◊ | How to Deepen the Power of Rituals1
  • ✎ | Contextual Momentum Model.pdf
  • ‡ | “The Qualified Self” (& Advanced Reading)2
  • ∆ | “We understand how dangerous a mask can be.”2
  • ‡ | You Are What You Subsume (in-form yourself)2
  • ‡ | Beware the Notion of the ‘True Authentic Self’8
  • ∆ | The Pathway to Mundanity & Blandness5
  • ∆ | How to Cast a Longer Shadow5
  • ◊ | Revel in Ambiguity & the Infinite Game3
  • ∆ | Finding Your Root Word4
  • ✎ | Word Map.pdf
  • ◊ | A Linguistic Connoisseur (like Whisky)6
  • ‡ | Words are Power (Semiotic Evocations)2
  • ◊ | How to Expand Your Vocabulary2
  • ∆ | Making Meaning Memorable (socially sticky)2
  • ‡ | Cultivating Magical Realism2
  • ◊ | Abstract Words
  • ◊ | Active Words
  • ◊ | Aspect Words
  • ∆ | Archetype Words4
  • ‡ | The Many Words of Dr Fox (boring)8
  • ‡ | How to Subtly Test Your Word
  • ◊ | Blossoming Out Potentiality2
  • ∆ | Not Too Comfortable, Not Too Cool
  • ◊ | Choose Just One Word
  • ∆ | Flirt with Tension & Paradox8

Part 3 | Self Actualisation

  • ∆ | The Seasonality of this Annual Ritual
  • ∆ | Considering the Notion of ‘Purpose’
  • ∆ | Principles to Guide Decisions (NSFW!)4
  • ✎ | Word Principles.pdf
  • ∆ | Intentional Patterns of Behaviour
  • ◊ | Shaping Behaviour & Crafting Habit3
  • ‡ | How You Manifest in the Lives of Others
  • ∆ | Projects to Project2
  • ◊ | Bringing Lightness to Your Projects2
  • ∆ | How to Avoid Advice
  • ◊ | Enchant Yourself via Enclothed Cognition6
  • ∆ | Reconsult The Chart of You
  • ∆ | Return to The Book of You1
  • ◊ | Interview Your Future Self4
  • ◊ | Practice Ironic Self-Indulgence
  • ∆ | Remember: It Was Never About You15
  • § | What next?3

Appendix

  • The 20/21 Update—What’s New2
  • ◊ | A Reflective Overview-Preview4
  • How to Choose One Word in Less Than 3 Minutes2
  • (Why You Really Ought Invest More Than 3 Minutes)2